Owning a sex toy is like having a well-stocked fridge, it is basically something that everyone should have
When it comes to talking about sex, we do so openly with our friends. We talk about who we are doing it with, how we are doing it, and how often we are doing it.
But there is a key aspect of our sex lives that we don’t always pay enough attention to, and I’m not just talking about casually skipping that sexual health checkup – I am talking about sex toys. Sex toys are fantastic. Sex toys are great. Sex toys are magnificent. In fact, every single consenting adult should be the proud owner of a sex toy.
With the popularity of shows like Sex And The City and the Fifty Shades books, sex toys have become part of popular culture. They have become more normalized and accessible to an audience that may not have previously considered them. Let’s not forget just how easy online shopping makes stocking up on a range of sex toys discreetly these days.
Using sex toys is nothing new, and the first recorded use of them goes all the way back to Ancient Greece. Yet even in 2020, we still don’t see sex toys in all major retailers; only in specialist erotic shops. Sex blogger Girl On The Net has noticed that despite society’s growing openness towards talking about sex and masturbation, this hasn’t been embraced by businesses:
Ironically, the only places that seem to be getting more regressive when it comes to sex things are the big businesses and platforms themselves…So just as society is starting to overcome the taboo around sex, business fires it back up again. Sex is as much a part of my life as food and drink is. You can buy fancy cooking gadgets in John Lewis, why shouldn’t you pick up the latest vibrator there too?
While it doesn’t look likely that you will be able to purchase a new vibrator along with your favorite socks in John Lewis, you can definitely take advantage of places such as Pleasures Galore, which will help you select a toy for your needs and desires. But using a sex toy isn’t just about trying something new, it is a vital tool when it comes to learning more about your own body.
There is no greater way to learn about what turns you on, makes you feel good, and, more importantly, orgasm than spending some time with a toy of your choice. For men, studies suggest that masturbation decreases the risk of prostate cancer, and for women, it can ease body aches and menstrual cramps. Plus, it sets you up for a great sleep.
Metro blogger Zoe Yvonne Delaney believes that the benefits of sex toys aren’t just limited to solo use, but are great when used in a relationship to give things a new twist:
Sex toys have loads of benefits for when things are getting a bit boring in a relationship. They can make things a bit more exciting again. Sometimes they don’t work out and it’s funny, and even that’s a good experience.
But despite all this sex toy positivity being sprinkled around, there is still a taboo around using sex toys that stops us from openly talking about it.
What’s more, there is still a stigma attached to masturbation with unique issues for both men and women. Girl On The Net discusses this further:
Masturbation is usually seen as a ‘male’ thing… and that attitude still hangs around: that men masturbate out of necessity and it’s a grubby boys-club thing to do. So when it comes to sex toys, toys for women can be sold as ‘sensual’ or ’empowering’ because female sexuality isn’t seen as a ‘necessary’ thing in the way male sexuality is. But male sex toys? They’re seen as creepy or unnecessary or gross. This is all total tosh of course.